Month 2 as a mummy of 3

This month has definitely had its ups and downs, it started off in October half term when we went straight from a chest infection to a stomach bug on Halloween. I was so upset the girls didn't even get to wear their costumes. I'm glad that they were too young to know that they had missed out on it. I'd had such an action packed week planned with them, with lots of crafts and fun activities for them to do, but they'll just have to wait until next year.

When we were finally all better Me and Mr went shopping for some new clothes for me with my birthday money, that I had saved from September, but typically I spent most of my money on Christmas presents and clothes and treats for the kids. And then I spend half my life complaining that I have no nice clothes that fit me, but some how children's clothes and toys look so much more appealing.

Me and H had our 6 week check, which went great, he's putting loads of weight on, now weighing in at a hefty 11lb 8oz. I still can't get over how big he is compared to the girls, I almost feel like I've missed the newborn stage. But I'm just glad that he's healthy. The Health Visitor came to our house on the Monday to do weight, height etc. And then we went to the doctor on the Tuesday for the physical exam. H had a few tiny spots on his private parts which I'd assumed were a little bit of nappy rash, But my Health Visitor was positive it was thrush and made sure she wrote a big note about it for the Doctor, sure enough mother knew best and it was nappy rash, I know its better to be safe but sometimes I feel like they just like to make you feel like a bad parent for not thinking it might be serious and taking them to the doctor, but I'd have wasted his time anyway.

As soon as S went back to nursery after the October half term they have been leaning the songs for the Christmas concert. Now don't get me wrong Christmas is my favorite time of year, I love everything about it, I start thinking about the next Christmas on boxing day, but my patience is already starting to wear thin with songs that I've never heard before and bless her she only knows half the words and gets frustrated that she can't remember the rest. I know she'll be amazing in the concert and will love every minute of it, i just wish they would of waited a few ore weeks before starting or at least send a song sheet home.

It's been a very tough few weeks and after 7 weeks of it I was at my wits end, always someone crying or needing something, E and S fighting over stupid things, the never ending jobs that are messed up as soon as you do them, the hundreds of nappies that need changing and the sheer tiredness of it all. So after me breaking down in tears to Mr, on his day off I was sent off to the shops with just H who slept the entire time, to get some fresh air and time to myself. It was a great chance to reflect on everything and by the time I'd done I was missing the girls and ready to go back to the mad house. I need to learn to take a break before it gets too much, Mr keeps joking that I'm going to give myself a heart attack because I get so stressed trying to leave the house on time.

I would love any tips on how to stay sane.....

Ex

First month as a mummy of 3

Week 1

We had a great first night with H, he settled himself in his Moses basket and slept loads, the girls spent the night at my parents so we could concentrate on getting to grips with feeding especially since we were told after he was born that he was tongue tied. It was great to have some time alone with him to bond.

This time I decided that instead of rushing around and going out straight away that I would rest at home and try and keep visitors away for a few days. I've felt a lot better in myself for it, after having E I had terrible "after pains" 4 or 5 times a day some lasting nearly an hour and were so painful I would debate ringing A&E, this time I've had one after pain that wasn't as bad as I remember them being and generally my whole body has recovered quicker.

Nursery runs are pretty hard luckily I've got Mr to help and some days he takes S on his own which is much better, I'm so worried about how I'm going to do it on my own.

On Tuesday (4 days old) I finally felt up to going out, so just after Lunch we started to get ready but all 3 of them started to play up. Both girls started having paddys over silly things like which shoes they were wearing and H filling his nappy twice and getting hungry.  Mix that with Mr getting stressed because he couldn't figure the pushchair out we ended up staying at home everyone having a nap, then we started again and went for a little walk down to my mums for a brew. So we made it out in the end just 2 hours after we intended to leave. 

On Wednesday my student midwife came to do the usual checkups, he lost 5% of his birthweight and they allow up to 10% so that was fab. She checked his feeding and we're doing great with that aswell so I'm feeling really pleased with myself this week.

Week 2 

On day 10 came a really sad day for me, saying goodbye to my wonderful midwives. I really wish you could have midwife care longer before being passed onto the health visitors, Midwives know all your history and know you personally mine saw me through 3 pregnancies, delivered two of my babies and looked after me postnatally for all 3. My health visitor on the other hand has changed for each baby and I've never really taken to any of them I've and have always felt very judged by them and always feel like I'm treading on eggshells with what I say and if I say the wrong thing I'm going to get told off like a child at school. As silly as that sounds In my experience its how I've been made to feel, I really hope that I've just been unlucky and there are some lovely health visitors out there.

This week we also braved our first shopping trip to the local shops, I was pleasantly surprised by how well it went. H pretty much slept through it, E was really we behaved and happily stayed in the pushchair and S stayed close and walked nicely just with the odd blip because she wanted to go on the buggy board that unfortunately doesn't fit on my iCandy Pear when its in double mode. All in all it was a success, the next step is going to be doing it on my own!

E seems to have suddenly grown up she can now point to the correct body part when asked and now says please and tries to say S's name it really does only seem 5 minutes since she was H's size.

This week H has become a real person when we registered him, I'm hoping the doubt about his name will get,  I think it's just as everyone's said it goes with the surname but he's a HH so I wasn't  100% about it, I love his 1st name but I dislike my married  surname.

Week 3

Mr started back at work after his 2 weeks paternity leave, it's  been a hard week I wasn't ready for him to go back, the thought of being on my own was so daunting. But I found the best trick is to split the day into sections, get to lunchtime, then till 2, then till 4 when I start making tea, then till bath time at 6, then it's just bedtime and RELAX! I never know what shift Mr's going to work so some days he's home till late morning and works late, others days he leaves the house before we wake up and is back in time for tea. It's hard with it being like that and I wish he had a job with a regular shift pattern, but I'm grateful he has a job that can support me being a stay at home mum.

Week 4

This week has been incredibly hard we've all had colds and just generally felt rubbish and I've really not felt like doing anything at all, the washing pile has built up and up and  the house is an absolute mess. It's surprising how mush washing we make, I'm optimistically hoping that I'll get into a really good routine of doing it, and it won't seem as bad. 

The nursery run is still hard getting 3 children and myself up and out of the house by 8.30 is tough, but the girls know the routine and we've not been late so far.
I'm making the most of H sleeping a lot and when S is at nursery spending as much quality time as I can with E. I'm really concerned that she's going to feel left out 

It was my local NCT(national childbirth trust) sale this week . I love going there's  always amazing bargains and it's nice to spend some time with my Mum and sister. I also sold at this sale which is a great way to have a clear out, and unlike a car boot or table top sale they take all the stress out of it, you label your items up in your own time at home, drop them off and them pick up any unsold items after the sale,  then just sit back and wait for your cheque in the post. 

  E xxx

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36 & 37 weeks

36 weeks

This week I had my home pre-birth visit, which went really well, me and Peanut are both doing great and the midwives are happy for me to give birth at home. She left me with my home birth kit that contains everything for the midwives and two bottles of enthonox. Now i'vr got the definate go a head for a home i've ordered my birth pool liner. I've been putting it off as I didn't want to waste my money if they turned around and said I couldn't have a home birth. I've also ordered the crib sheets which were the last things on my list that I still needed to buy, its like a weights been lifted off my shoulders knowing that I've got everything he needs.

The nursery is so close to being finished that I can finally start getting excited about it, its lovely going and sitting in there at night I just cant believe that he's going to be here in the next 6 weeks!

37 Weeks
Yay I'm finally Full term, so feel free to come anytime little man I'm (near enough) ready for you!
The most fruststating thing at the minute is when people say "not long now" I just want to scream " I know" at them, and I'm just stating to get a few "no baby yet" or "any signs yet", I'm sure people must know how annoying and frustrationg it is to hear that especially people who have children themselves but they just cant seem to help themselves.

I've been in alot of pain this week and think I've got sciatica or a trapped nerve because if I get out of bed at night I get a shooting pain from my back down my right leg that makes it buckle underneath me with every step I take, in a way its nice because Mr now has has to do all the night wake ups with the girls but at 37 weeks pregnant I'm needing several toilet trips a night that now are impossible. Even with all the pains and tiredness I still don't want this pregnancy to end, I really do like the feeling of having a baby inside me and them being all mine I don't have to share them or pass them round for cuddles, I feel like I'm the only one that really knows them and the only one with a bond with them.

This week I'm starting to get abit nervous about the birth as I keep having flash backs to E's and remembering the pain I was in. But  there's only one way out so I'm just going to try and put it to the back of my mind and deal with when the time comes. To take my mind off it I've been trying to keep busy and with a little bit of help from my nesting instinct I've made lots of meals to freeze and washed all of the baby clothes and bedding. For the freezer I have made chicken and mushroom pies, shepherds pies, lasagne's and some mushroom soup, its not alot but I'm hoping that it will just save me cooking a few days especially when Mr goes back to work and I'm to tired to do anything.

34 & 35 weeks

34 weeks

I Feel like I've been hit by a bus I'm so tired, by 10am most days I'm dozing off to sleep in the chair while the girls play, I feel terrible but physically can't keep my eyes open, most days I doze on and off for 20 minutes and I have to force myself to get up and do something. The weather has cooled down a bit which has made my life a bit easier and a lot of the the swelling in my feet and ankles has eased up a bit now.

I had my 34 week midwife appointment on Monday, and everything was fine my worries about him been breech were put to ease when she reassured me that he's head down. I'm measuring a 2 weeks behind but they weren't concerned as the girls were both quite small, so I must just be following the same pattern and having another little baby again.

 35 weeks

E has hit the terrible twos early and if she doesn't get her own way the whole town knows about it. Mix that with S' s usual paddys and i'v been tearing my hair out, wondering how im going to cope with 3 children when I can't cope with 2. 

Peanuts nursery still isn't ready, i'm really starting to get stressed about it now. Its just been problem after problem with it, first half the plaster came off the wall when we took the wood-chip off, then for some bizarre reason the paint wouldn't stick to the ceiling, all the wallpaper I want Is out of stock and now we've started wallpapering we've realised that there's not one straight wall in there. So i've no idea what its going to look like when its finished could be a complete mess the way its going. Fingers crossed it works out in the end.

Thanks for reading  x

Our new little bundle

Well after keeping us waiting 9 extra days our little baby boy 'H' was born at 3.11pm on Friday 26th September weighing 8lb5oz, which after two 6lb babies seems massive to me. After a very long build up it was a very quick labour with only 5 minutes of pushing which I was very grateful for, but as I was having a home water birth the second midwife didn't make it in time, so was a little bit panicked but all worked out well in the end.  I will write my full birth story up, so please come back to read that and follow our story of 3 children under 4 years old.
E xxx

25 to 33 weeks

Through one thing and another i'm afraid blogging took a back seat so I thought i'd have a quick catch up and hopefully get back into the swing of things.

25 weeks

E had her 12 month jabs this week, but they didn't have one of the vaccines in as the fridge they were kept in had broken, so we have to next week for one more. It upsets me so much to see her in pain and crying but I'd rather see her upset for a couple of minutes than have a serious illness that could last for weeks. 

26 weeks

Been feeling rundown again this week. I keep getting like this, my body feels alot weaker this pregnancy. The toll of two toddlers is getting to me now and everyday I seem to be waking up tired.

27 weeks

With the nice sunny mornings it seems to be waking the girls earlier and earlier, which when your not a morning person isn't a nice experience. They have a blackout blind and curtains but the light still seems to creep in their room And wake them by 6am.

28 weeks

I had the midwife this week which went really well i'm measuring a week bigger than I am, other than that everything was spot on. I'm being a case study for a student midwife which I'm pretty happy about as she'll be at all my appointments and will be the one who delivers him, under the watchful eye of a fully trained midwife.  Its put my mind at ease a bit as not knowing which midwife i'd get bothered me, I was lucky with E that I knew the midwife who delivered her but it was pure luck there's quite a few I don't know, so its nice to know that I'll be seeing a friendly face.

29 weeks

This week Mr was a Godfather to one of his best friends little boys, it was lovely christening but unfortunately we had to whiz of straight after the church to get the train to go holiday. The girls had gone the day before with my parents, so I was looking forward to a nice relaxing train journey, but it was so busy and I was disgusted how many people sat there and watched a 7 month pregnant lady stand for an hour on a scorching hot day that by the time we got there I was so tired and stressed that I never wanted to go on a train again.

30 weeks

Our holiday was amazing, we had such a nice time with my family, we stayed in a beautiful holiday house in Llandudno. It had everything we needed for 7 adults and 3 under 4s. Iv always loved North Wales, as it reminds me of family holidays as a child so having the chance to take my own was amazing. Taking them to all the places I remember and seeing how much they love them too has made me the happiest mummy ever. And great fun for me reliving my childhood.

31 weeks

The weather has been ridiculous this week far to hot for me even if I wasn't pregnant, we've constantly got the fan going and Windows open. And I try to avoid going outside if I can, I don't mind if i'm doing something or going somewhere but I can't stand sitting in the sun. Most people think i'm mad but i'm just a winter person.
I ordered my birth-pool this week and when it came we had a trial run with it, which was great fun the girls absolutely loved it, S thought it was a swimming pool and keeps asking to go back in it.

32 weeks

S has gone into the big room at nursery through the summer holidays to get her ready for her funded place in September, shes so excited about and tells everyone we meet about, I can't believe she's in the pre-school room shes growing up far to fast. I'm slightly nervous about September now, how on earth am I going to get 3 children and myself up and ready to leave for nursery at 8.30am 3days a week. Hopefully it will just become habit after a couple of weeks.
Tiredness has come back again, I seem to be alright for a while then it suddenly hits me like a brick wall and I feel horrendous and don't want to move off the sofa for a few days, hope its not here to stay now.

33 weeks

The pain in my ribs has started in exactly the same place I had it with E, its already getting unbearable, with a physical bruise appearing, it feels like i'm having my ribs slowly broken. I've blown my birthing ball up this week in the hope that it will help relieve some of the pain and also because i'm getting worried that he's breech so hoping that if he is then bouncing on the birthing ball and leaning over it might help him turn.

 

Thanks for reading x